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PARSHIP
Your safety
Your ultimate goal in using PARSHIP is to find someone who is right for you. That's why PARSHIP - with the help of the PARSHIP test - only links you to people whose profiles are compatible with yours. Vitally, we also put you in control as you get to know a potential partner with a service that protects your anonymity online.
PARSHIP's members
We make as much effort as possible to ensure that the PARSHIP member database does not include individuals who will abuse the service. In PARSHIP's Terms & Conditions you will find a section (Members' Obligations) which outlines the levels of legality, decency and community respect that PARSHIP's members must observe.
PARSHIP's SECURE ONLINE SYSTEMS
Our secure online systems give you control over your anonymity. PARSHIP will never reveal your personal details to other members. On the PARSHIP website you are known exclusively by a neutral ID number. Your name, your email address, your phone number and your home address are concealed and protected by the website's secure infrastructure.
When using the site, members can only communicate through our anonymous contact service. At all points, it is for YOU to choose whether you supply another member with further personal details (such as your name and email address).
Likewise, it is your choice whether you include a photograph on your profile, and you determine who sees the photo. If you do upload a photo to PARSHIP's secure server, it is then for you to decide who sees it. If, at any time, you don't wish a specific potential partner to see your photo, then you simply withhold the photo.
COMMUNICATING THROUGH PARSHIP - POINTS TO REMEMBER
- Don't give out personal contact details immediately. Remember you are the one in control. Don't put personal contact details in your profile or in the first messages you send to a potential partner.
- You can contact/reply to other members via PARSHIP's secure, anonymous contact system. Take your time to learn more about each potential partner and to feel comfortable about communicating with them. It is for you to decide if and when you want to take things further - for instance by supplying your name, your personal email address or your mobile phone number.
- You may wish to set up an email account exclusively for your relationship search activity. Free, web-based email services like Hotmail are ideal for this - and you don't have to reveal your name in the email address.
- When using the phone, remember that a mobile phone number gives you more flexibility and anonymity. It's also easier to change a mobile number than a fixed line number. When calling another member, you can key 141 first to prevent your number appearing on their caller ID.
- If anything makes you feel uncomfortable about another member, stop contacting them. You can delete their profile instantly from your PARSHIP Contacts list, which means they will be unable to contact you via the website. If you feel someone is abusing the service, tell us.
- Always use your common sense and remember you are the one in control.
ARRANGING TO MEET ANOTHER MEMBER - POINTS TO REMEMBER
We sincerely hope that you reach the point of deciding to meet other PARSHIP members face to face, but at all times the choice is clearly yours.
When meeting another member, we recommend you bear the following points in mind.
- Meet 'on neutral ground' in a busy public place that you know well.
- Don't arrange for the other member to pick you up from your home.
- Don't let the other member make arrangements for your travel or for any hotel accommodation.
- Keep a trustworthy friend or relative informed and on call.
- Let this friend or relative know where you are going and what time you are expected home.
- Supply your friend/relative with details of the person you are going to meet.
- At a suitable point, call your friend/relative to let them know that things are OK.
- Consider going on a double date with a friend/friends, or going out with a group. The group can include people you know and people your date knows.
- You will probably feel that you know someone through email and phone contact, but remember that they are still a stranger when you first meet face to face.
- Don't accept a lift home if you feel uncomfortable about it.
- Always have a contingency plan in place. If something unexpected happens, make sure you can leave quickly and easily and that there are people close by who can help you if necessary.
- Take a mobile phone with you. Make sure the phone is fully charged and working. You can leave the phone on during the date if you wish.
- It can take time to get to know someone properly. If a person is truly interested in you, they won't mind if you want to take your time to develop a relationship.
- Always use your common sense, keep in control and don't be forced into doing something you wouldn't normally do.
FRAUDSTERS and SCAMMERS
PARSHIP does its utmost to protect members from fraudsters. Whilst we have all benefited so much from the internet, it also offers an opportunity for unscrupulous people to extort money or personal details from legitimate and innocent web users. We have a very secure payment system and also constantly monitor activity to weed out any potential abuse.
Scammers - the signs
The most common form of 'scamming' is where an internet user communicates with another in such a way as to gain their confidence and trust. Once established they then ask for money - taking advantage of the trust that has built up. You should be wary of the following tell-tale signs:
 Photos that look 'professionally' shot and where the person (male or female) is of 'model' quality
Emails that do not address your questions but rather seem to go down a structured path of pre-meditated content conveying an ever increasing attraction to you
Emails from men or women living in Russia, Eastern Europe or Africa
In some cases, UK based correspondents claiming to be attractive Russian or Eastern European women or men
'Sob stories' - ill relatives; they've been robbed; they have no money for flights or for furthering education; they cannot cash a cheque or money order
Asking you to deposit money on their behalf into a UK bank
Poor grammar and spelling in emails
Scammers - Protect yourself
Never send money to anyone you have met via an internet service and have not met personally
If you have any doubts, delete the contact from your PARSHIP mailbox
If you suspect anyone on this service then report them to us immediately
At PARSHIP, we try our best to help make your experience of finding a long-term relationship both secure and safe. We hope that - supported by your trust and good judgement - PARSHIP will help you find someone who really is right for you.
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